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The Chaos of Overthinking

Updated: Apr 19

Imagine you receive a cryptic text message from a friend that says, "We need to talk." 🗯️

Your mind starts racing with possibilities – Did you do something wrong? Is there an issue in the friendship? Are they upset with you? 🤷❓

This is a scenario where you might find yourself overthinking as you try to decipher the meaning behind the vague communication.

Overthinking is like inviting chaos to set up shop in your mind. 🏪 When we dive too deep into analyzing every detail, imagining worst-case scenarios, and constantly second-guessing ourselves, it creates a perfect storm of chaos, such as:

Emotional anxiety, doubt, and frustration. 😟

Paralysis by Analysis - Getting stuck in a loop of thinking about all the potential outcomes, which can prevent us from making decisions or taking action. 🔁

Decision-Making Hurdles - Overthinking makes every choice feel like a life-altering decision, leading to indecision and more chaos.🌎

In addition to the two key ingredients of 👉 communication and kindness required to effectively tackle chaos, here are a few specifics for tackling overthinking.

➡️ Establish a "Worry Time"

Designate a specific time each day to address worries. When anxious thoughts arise outside of this time, put those thoughts on a shelf and take them down to address them during the next worry time session.

➡️ Set Time Limits for Decision-Making

Allocate a specific amount of time for making decisions. This prevents prolonged overthinking and encourages a more decisive mindset.

➡️ Reframe Negative Thoughts

Actively challenge and reframe negative thoughts. Ask yourself if your worries are based on facts or assumptions. This helps in gaining a more realistic perspective.

➡️ Distract Yourself

Engage in activities that divert your attention away from overthinking. Whether it's a hobby, exercise, or spending time with loved ones, distraction can be a powerful tool.

➡️ Limit Information Intake

In the age of information overload, set boundaries on how much information you consume. Too much data can contribute to overthinking.

➡️ Focus on What You Can Control

Concentrate on aspects of a situation that you have control over.

Overthinking can have various triggers, and it often stems from a combination of internal factors like personal insecurities, past experiences, and cognitive patterns, as well as external factors such as expectations, complex relationships, and the ever-increasing influx of information in our fast-paced world.


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Addressing the chaos of overthinking is an ongoing process. Finding what works best for you may involve a bit of trial and error, but being aware of it is the first step to choosing a Powerful Perspective that leads us to thrive.

I’ve curated the best from my coaching practice, thought leadership and unique development programs to create something that takes the guesswork out of how to manage the chaos creators and the emotional chaos they incite - with kindness, confidence, and compassion.

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