I can be a loud and an "out-there" person. I was raised in a home where that was the norm. My ex called it crazy.
He believed that slapping a label on it and saying it out loud made it true.
I dimmed my personality to make him more comfortable. I believed 'fitting in' was making peace with my existence.
Then I came across the teachings of Norman Vincent Peale [godfather of positive thinking], who suggested that,
"If someone says you have purple hair and you don't believe it, they're wrong. But if someone calls you stupid and you believe it, they're right."
💡 This led to an epiphany that put me on a quest to understand two things:
What made me believe I was crazy?
What made me believe my belief was the root problem?
To answer the first, I had to understand the definition of crazy.
🔎 My ex defined crazy as anything different than what he believed or valued. Often those values involved making him money or giving him a sense of superiority.
🔎 I defined crazy as non-conforming, foolish, or unusual. Often, my values involved a deep yearning for the freedom to choose what I BELIEVE is acceptable.
It was clear our definitions were different AND that our values didn't align.
To answer the second, I had to understand the motivation behind the value.
👉 That's where my system comes into play. It helps us determine whether we are choosing to survive or choosing to thrive.
AND IT IS SO SIMPLE [but not always easy].
Instead of seeking to understand, my ex chose to label and judge beliefs he didn't agree with. Fear is a [below-the-line choice] that leads to disconnect and imbalance. It keeps us in survival mode.
Being aware that our definitions were different and then choosing to accept that our values weren't aligned didn't make me crazy. It provided an opportunity for transformation [above-the-line choice] that leads us to thrive.
Judgment keeps us stuck in cycles of shame and resistance. It keeps us in survival mode.
Choosing to accept and appreciate differences is what leads us to thrive.
The choice is power, and the power is in your hands.
As a coach, that's what I do. I teach you to take back your power.
It's not just about shifting your mindset and raising your emotional intelligence.
📌 It's about becoming the best version of yourself [who you were born to be] and THRIVING beyond your wildest dreams.
If you want to crush the chaos, communicate with power, and be who you were born to be,
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But only apply if you're ready for a profound transformation.
You were born for more,
Samantha
P.S. I share the dark details of moving from survival mode to thrive mode using my system in my book, You Were Born for More.
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