A brutal game of catch with my dad became a lifelong lesson in perspective. What felt like torture to me was discipline to him. This story unpacks how leadership above the line asks us to move beyond our version of truth, seek the middle, and lead with understanding instead of judgment.

At 12 years old, my sister looked at the adults, the teachers, the church, and the “good families” around her and said, “If that’s what faith looks like, I don’t want it.” She wasn’t rejecting God. She was rejecting hypocrisy. She saw a boy who was struggling and a system that chose convenience over compassion. She felt the gap between what was preached and what was practiced—and she refused to shrink herself to fit it. That’s leadership.

When Temple Grandin noticed cattle pushing back in the chute, she saw what others missed: they weren’t being stubborn—they were scared. That insight reshaped the livestock industry and offers a profound lesson for leaders, parents, and humans everywhere: most “difficult behavior” is fear in disguise. In this piece, I unpack how her perspective helps us shift from judgment to understanding and lead above the line where calm, clarity, and compassion can actually change lives.

A playful backyard moment between Pepper and Motley revealed a powerful leadership truth: what we think we’re seeing is rarely the whole story. One reacted from play, the other from protection — two realities shaped by two motivations. When we learn to read the energy, question our assumptions, and notice whether behavior is coming from survival or connection, we lead with clarity instead of ego. The truth — and the path forward — always lives in the middle.

At my son’s first Bon Jovi concert, his months of saving and extra chores ran headfirst into $80 t-shirt prices and a merch table fueled by greed. Faced with three bad options—feed the system, buy a knockoff, or deepen his disappointment—I realized thriving isn’t about perfectly “above the line” choices. It’s about staying awake in the messy middle, honoring what matters most, and leading ourselves forward with courage and compassion.

Relationships shift, even the ones that once felt effortless and alive. When connections drift, the ego wants to grasp, chase, or question our worth — but powerful perspective invites something different. This is the real work of leadership, co-parenting, and healing: learning to release with grace, honor the ebb and flow, and trust that sacred realignment is not rejection, but growth.

A Halloween classroom clash between a “pimp,” “Jesus,” and an angry believer turned into an unexpected masterclass in integrity. When judgment erupted and chaos hit, the real lesson wasn’t about costumes—it was about who stayed above the line, who didn’t, and how our actions always reveal the truth.

I'll explain how the the THRIVE model helps us understand whether our decisions are motivated by fear or faith and what we can do to move our motivations above the line.

Strengths are powerful—but without boundaries, they can leave us exposed. In this post, I share what my chicken Greenie taught me about balancing gentleness with guardrails, and how the same lesson applies to leadership and co-parenting.

When my husband’s chickens started escaping, he didn’t blame them—he adapted. Fence by fence, he met each challenge with awareness, not control. That’s the heart of evolving leadership: responding with clarity instead of reacting from fear. Leadership is about meeting the moment, adjusting when things shift, and trusting your ability to grow through it.

When my son pivoted from engineering to cannabis cultivation, I felt the sting of unmet expectations. That moment revealed a powerful leadership truth: real growth means releasing control and trusting the unfolding. Leadership isn’t guiding others toward our version of success—it’s creating space for them to discover their own

What two very different health professionals taught me about leadership, ego, and the power of perspective. Real leadership starts when we go beyond first impressions.

This isn’t just about the roles we step into — it’s about the weight of expectation that comes with them, and the quiet war we wage inside when we don’t believe we measure up.

Some things land in your lap you didn’t ask for—chaos, dysfunction, extra weight that’s not yours to carry. But just because it’s in your nest doesn’t mean it belongs in your life. The warbler adapts, evolves, calls for backup. That’s what conscious leaders and resilient co-parents do too. We don't just survive—we build smarter, rise higher, and lead from truth.

After a break from the gym, fear of inadequacy surfaced. This blog post delves into confronting shame and the false narratives we create about strength and worth. Discover powerful lessons applicable to leadership, co-parenting, and life, emphasizing acceptance, connection, and authentic growth over comparison.

The quiet fight for justice and balance in a system that seems to favor manipulation and lies - even over the grave of a dead man.

Break down what a scarcity mindset actually is, how it shows up in everyday life (especially in leadership and co-parenting, and relationships), and how to transform it to thrive with powerful perspectives.

Learn how guilt can transform your live from survival to connection and help you to get unstuck and thrive.

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