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Cringe Chaos - One Upping Mentality

Updated: Jan 27


One upping visual with chef aprons
One upping snippet from SNL

My ex had a habit that generated an emotional response that I call cringe chaos.

If person A had an excellent week-long vacation renting a cabin on a lake, he would share that he owned a lakefront property and spent entire summers enjoying the water.

If person B got a new phone, he would have gotten the more expensive model.

If person C had a difficult person at their meeting, he would have had at least 3 or more challenging people at his meeting.

Yes, he is that guy. He’s a one-upper.

One-upping mentality is when someone consistently tries to outdo or overshadow others in conversation or actions. At best, it was cringy. At worst, it was triggering and led to uncomfortable chaos.

Addressing cringe chaos doesn't require us to be unkind or feel frustrated - and if you’re still reading, you probably know someone similar.

So how do we tackle cringe chaos? Two ways.

First, let them one up. Their behavior informs you that they are insecure and will not likely celebrate your success or achievements. They aren’t your people so don’t waste your energy on them.

Second, create a boundary or distance. If you work with them, don’t share the good parts of your life with them. If you’re connected on social media, unfriend, or unfollow.

If you're related to them or if they somehow pierce your inner circle or intrude on your conversations, keep your interactions short and simple by responding with, “That’s nice” or “That’s good to know.” Nothing more. Then walk away.

A one-up mentality is a form of comparison rooted in judgment that leads to imbalance and a limited mindset.


 

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