when chaos takes the wheel

I bought a new car and sold my old one in less than 48 hours.

The whole thing felt universe-led. Like the stars seemed to align.

Well… mostly. 👀

The seller of my new car was deeply rooted in chaos. He couldn’t stay focused on any one topic. Our conversations veered wildly—

• from his high school dating drama 🎭

• to a closet rack collapse in the middle of the night 😴

• to an inappropriate story about his son and his ex-girlfriend’s mom 🎬

He was animated, full of stories, and honestly kind of entertaining — like watching a one-man show unfold in real-time [cue the buttered popcorn]. 🍿

But trying to keep him on task? Like herding a caffeinated squirrel.

Once you stepped into his “oblivious to social cues, never-stop-talking, never-take-a-breath Hotel California,” you could check out anytime… but you could never leave. 🎵

When he delivered the vehicle to my hometown, the pattern continued.

At the bank, his off-topic tangents created confusion and added unnecessary friction to an otherwise straightforward process. He forgot critical paperwork, sent his son on a long round-trip to Minneapolis, and blamed his son’s frustration on “ongoing psychological abuse.”

Later, when pulled over for his Tesla’s illegal tinted windows? Again, he was the victim — even though he special-ordered them that way.

In his stories, the world was always happening to him. He was never responsible for the outcome.

So, what does all this have to do with powerful perspectives?

Let’s unpack it.

Living below the line looks and feels like victimhood. It’s reactive, energy-draining, and rooted in “life is happening to me.”

Living above the line is about ownership. It’s proactive, energy-giving, and rooted in “life is happening for me.”

Whether we’re leading or co-parenting, we move above the line when we step into acceptance and ask:

👉 What’s mine to do here?

📌 [The Powerful Perspective] Acceptance doesn’t mean we approve of the chaos. It means we recognize it, ground ourselves, and choose how to show up.

Life is full of moving parts and messy people. Leaders and co-parents aren’t always in the driver’s seat. Sometimes the leader is the GPS—the one who steadies the course and offers alternative routes when distractions take the wheel.

The leaders who navigate the construction zones, merge calmly when lanes narrow, and keep everyone moving forward? Those are the ones who build trust, stability, and resilience.

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