The Real Work[out]

Reflecting on returning to the gym

I had been away from the gym for a while.

Not because I didn’t care, but because life pulled me away.

Things outside my control. Priorities that couldn’t wait. A body that needed to rest and recover.

When I returned, fear met me at the door. Not fear of pain or sweat.

• Fear of not being who I used to be.

• Fear of modifying when others were maxing out.

  
  

Fear has a funny way of revealing what’s really going on underneath.

Why did I attach my self-worth to what I used to do? Why did I think struggling meant failing?

⚠️ What hit me later, after the sweat and the fear had settled, was that it was never just about the gym....

It was about the story I was telling myself - that needing to modify meant I was behind; that struggling meant I was weak; and that if I couldn’t keep up, I wasn’t enough. 🫤

But that wasn’t truth, friend.

That was shame in disguise. Shame is perpetuated by fear – in my case, the fear of failure.

Fear can freeze us — but it can also focus us.

THRIVE model

Fear stops being about judgment or shame when it propels us toward a powerful perspective of acceptance, connection and growth.

Fear is transformed when it is ‘in service of’ what's above the line.

Fear doesn’t always keep us small.

It calls us back to empathy, to connection, to the kind of strength that builds trust and leads us to THRIVE.

In leadership. In co-parenting. In life.

Let’s Unpack It! 💼

Just like walking back into that gym, there are moments in leadership and co-parenting where you feel exposed. Where you feel misunderstood or judged by people who weren’t there for the decisions, the dynamics, or the damage.

There are times you modify. You step back and observe. You begin to live and lead from your authentic center where you tap into the abundance of creativity, passion and peace.

• You don’t have to match their energy.

• You don’t need to play games to prove you’re strong.

• Your definition of strength doesn’t have to match theirs.

It just has to be rooted in truth.

📌 [The Powerful Perspective] Fear isn’t the enemy—it’s an invitation. Use it to rise, not retreat.

You’ve carried the shame. You’ve questioned your worth.

You’ve compared yourself to the loudest voice in the room — or the quietest one doing the most damage behind the scenes.

But here’s what I've come to understand.

🧭 Shame is not a compass, and comparison will never show you your path.

Whether you're leading a team or co-parenting with someone who drains your energy, the transformation starts with you.

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Shifting your story starts here:

👉 Peaceful Parenting Pathway

👉 Powerful Perspectives for Leaders

Need help cutting through the chaos and reclaiming your power? I’ve got tools for that. Let’s talk.

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